common reactions to my limb difference and what i’m thinking (in gifs)

I thought I’d express the sentiments in today’s post better with GIFs. Enjoy!

1) “Oh my gosh, I’m sooooo sorry about your arm!,” kind of like this:

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What I’m actually thinking:

2) “I had no idea you were missing an arm all this time!”

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3) “How do you write with only one hand?”

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4) “You seem to do pretty well without that arm.”

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5) “I knew this guy once who lost an arm.”

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6) “Don’t worry. You’ll find a guy one day who’s not shallow and loves you just the way you are.”

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7) “That bionic hand is pretty cool.”

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8) “Can I see/touch it?”

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Peace,
Caitlin Michelle

 

(I do not own any of the above GIFs. They are from Tumblr and Google.)
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limb different girl takes on ‘the bachelor’ (and what this means for the limb different community)

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I know I’m a little late jumping on the bandwagon with this story, but how awesome is it that a girl with one arm/hand is on The Bachelor? I’ve never been a fan of the show before, but I’ll definitely be watching this season and rooting for Sarah Herron, a gorgeous 20-something hoping to find love with the handsome Sean Lowe. And you know what I think about her being on the show? This is a HUGE deal for the limb difference community.

Before I continue, let me just mention that I know The Bachelor is not exactly the most serious or positive or life-changing show on television. It’s pretty mindless entertainment where vapid young women basically fight for the attention of their “ideal” man (and the cameras). But think of it this way: how many people with limb differences do you see on TV? The ones featured on scripted shows (with the exception of Kurt Yaeger on Sons of Anarchy) are able-bodied actors using green screens to look like they had a limb amputated. Reality TV is only a little more accepting. We’ve seen amputees on The Amazing Race, Survivor, Dancing with the Stars, The Real Housewives of New York, and American Gladiators. But a DATING show? This is a first! People and characters with disabilities, especially missing limbs, are typically not depicted as glamorous (think Darth Vader or Lieutenant Dan from Forrest Gump). They are usually evil or gritty characters with a chip on their shoulders.

Now The Bachelor, which is a show that pretty much epitomizes society’s obsession with physical perfection and beauty, features a beautiful and accomplished woman with one arm competing alongside dozens of other mannequin-pretty girls. Now the mainstream media (and all its audiences) can see that we limb different folks are not the Captain Hooks they had previously thought us to be. We can be pretty like Sarah Herron on The Bachelor. We can be elegant and stylish like Aviva Drescher. And we can be light on our feet (or foot) like Heather Mills. We are not stereotypes; we are people. And I just hope that everyone who watches Sean Lowe make out with a million girls over the next few weeks realizes this.

I also hope that everyone who has or who knows someone with a limb difference sees that we can be totally normal. Beauty is not as standard and rigid as society wants us to believe, and even the media is waking up to this fact.

So I’m super excited for Sarah and I hope she makes it far on the show. But if not, it’s cool to know that she changed (at least Sean’s) perceptions of people with physical differences.

 

Peace,

Caitlin Michelle

 

 

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media monday – love language

Hi, all! One of my favorite guilty pleasures is watching short films on YouTube during my lunchbreaks. So for today’s Media Monday, I’d like to share this lovely 5-minute love story with a touching ending. I think that, regardless of ability or lack thereof, everyone can speak the language of love.

Enjoy!

Peace,
Caitlin Michelle

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